“How do you make this sexy?” a reader asked me, gesturing to her wheelchair in the middle of one of my sex education Q&A sessions. The question stumped me because the answer isn’t an easy one. The short version is: You don’t. There isn’t anything inherently sexy about using a wheelchair or a walker, or having … Continue reading
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Everyone Remembers Their First Time…
This weekend, I had the immense pleasure of being part of The Conference for Canadian Content in Speculative Arts and Literature—Can-Con, for short. I’ve been to conferences before, but always as a fan, attending panels and being a fanboy over authors I love. However, this conference was special to me. It was my first conference … Continue reading
Spooning with Spoonies at Can-Con 2017!
I’m so excited to announce that several of our SpAN contributors (including myself) are going to be on a panel at Can-Con 2017 (the Conference on Canadian Content in Speculative Arts and Literature). The topic? Sex! Spooning with Spoonies: Disability and Sexuality—Disability is often represented as the antithesis of sexuality and disabled people are often … Continue reading
Doing ‘It’ with a Disability
The first piece of writing advice that I was given was: Write what you know. Throughout my twenty years as a writer, I’ve happily ignored that advice. I’ve written fantasy novels, horror stories, and countless short stories and poems. And throughout all of them, I wrote only what pleased me, what I felt called … Continue reading
Sexy and disabled: yes, you can be both!
I have a disability that causes widespread nerve pain, chronic fatigue, and mobility impairment. My turn-ons include fresh sheets, kisses during walks in the sunset, and cupcakes. Like a shocking amount of people I enjoy having sex, and I don’t mind saying so. Does that make you feel uncomfortable? Continue reading